There is a reason for all difficulties...keep your spirits up

“When I was 5 years old, my mother always told me that happiness was the key to life. When I went to school, they asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up. I wrote down ‘happy’. They told me I didn’t understand the assignment, and I told them they didn’t understand life.”  - John Lennon

There are moments in life when there is no way back. And sometimes it does not work out to go ahead and take a step. Good or bad, and that is life. Everyone has their own history, pain, wounds. Sometimes when we are afraid of something, we actually have everything in our head. In fact, it is an echo of fears in us.

Think positively and keep your spirits up.

✔ Pay attention not to shortcomings, not to what we can not, but to what we can, to the successes achieved, to the results of the work done.

✔ There is a reason for all difficulties. Do not stop and keep your spirits up.

✔ Everyone has difficulties in life, absolutely everyone, even those who live on the other end of the earth. We have to accept that this is life. Sometimes we are just fine, and sometimes a series of failures and failures. Sometimes they last a long time, and you think that is how it is always going to be. But it is not. There is a reason for that. Everything will change. The rough patch will pass. But there can be tremendous changes along the way. It is a rough patch like a pit stop that will teach you to be stronger, temper your body and soul, which will make your life even better and more joyful. Things are going to change for the better. You will be happier. You have to believe and go ahead, and not fall in spirit. And then it will work out.

✔ Stop the negative conversations that you have with yourself

Probably you have been caught telling yourself that you can not do something because you do not have the skills to do it, you are afraid that you not smart enough, beautiful enough, etc. Or you are not happy with some part of your body. And you are fixating on it, you are in a bad mood. So, this negative dialogue is happening within you. Can you imagine yourself saying these imperfect things to a friend?  That would absolutely kill your relationship. It is all over. Your body starts listening and believing those words. It reduces self-esteem, self-confidence, and bad mood for an entire day. Every morning be kind to yourself, tell yourself you are a strong, confident and good person. You are you, and no one else, in all the virtues and mistakes. Self-confidence makes you even more attractive. There is no one like you anymore.

"I have come to love myself for who I  was, who I am and who I hope to become" - Kim Nam Joon

✔ Do not compare your life with others.

You might think someone has a perfect life, a perfect home, a perfect relationship etc or there is something you can not afford. Do not look superficial. You do not know what those people have been through, the problems they face, because people tend not to like to talk about it and hide their uncertainty. Comparing yourself to others, it is so low and unhealthy, and it only brings suffering to you. No one is perfect. There are things we are not good at, but there are ones where we are just perfect. Someone might not have what you have. We should not forget that everyone has his own life, his own way, so we should not compare and be sad. Instead of comparing yourself to other people, listen to yourself and compete only with yourself.

"You are not perfect, but by making mistakes, you learn from them. I think the real power is that."

✔ Let go of toxic people

If you constantly feel that in the circle of certain people, when communicating with them, you feel depressed and demotivated, humiliated, then it is time to let go of such people. Such a condition is harmful to both mental health and your plans and goals. If you feel that you are being used for your own benefit, insulted, manipulated, humiliated and, above all, disrespected, you must reconsider the circle of communication. Even if you notice that the person does not suit you, has a negative effect on you, then he is not necessary to you, release them, let go. Do not waste your precious time and health, let him go, let him fly away.

✔ Learn to say no

It was perhaps the hardest thing for me to do, like learning to say no. Set healthy boundaries, and you decide which behavior is permissible for you and which is not. You try to be nice and kind, you agree to everything, you do everything, and you hope that others will treat you as well. You think you are a good person and here you are helping someone so you do not detract from others, and you want to be loved more. But sometimes it is not. You could end up losing your opinion and losing yourself. And this situation can be unhealthy for you, do not let you be treated like a doormat. To avoid being a doormat, in situations that you do not like or something that is not right for you, then say no. Do not agree blindly to everything in a row just because you feel obliged, find a healthy balance between them.

✔ Stop complaining

Imagine how you complain or nag. Imagine? Now imagine what kind of people who see and hear this negative, and what they feel at the same time. It has a negative impact not only on them but also on you. Instead of complaining, try to see the other side of the whole story because there is always something positive, and there is always something to be grateful for. There are people who are in worse situations than you are, even if you feel the whole world is against you at this point. Everyone can have a bad day, it is OK to let off steam, but do not turn that into a habit. No one is interested in listening to complaints, problems and negative forever. It is better to instill good useful habits and be grateful.

Try to keep calmness and happiness inside yourself.

Some positive things you can do is immerse yourself in a new hobby that you have always wanted to try or attend some events that will bring you joy and peace. And they will also increase self-esteem and self-confidence. Sometimes for a good and joyful mood, it is enough to listen to cheerful music, with motivating lyrics. Do not say you do not have time, it is just an excuse. In days 24 hours, and there is always time."We still have a whole life ahead of us, and some are already saying they do not have time." If you really want to, it will work out.

In difficult moments, you can get confused, get out of the way, end up in the kingdom of darkness. And it can cause a deep rift in you, and you can experience negative emotions.

But whatever happens in life, keep a fraction of light, happiness, positive within yourself.