Be Yourself or nobody

«I learned to love myself for who I am, who I was and who I hope to become in the future» - Kim Nam Jun

Be yourself. It seems so simple. But in fact, when you find yourself in difficult, sensitive situations, when you have to make a decision on which your condition, mood, or even future may depend, you are at a standstill. You start thinking about everything except yourself. Thinking about what will happen when you make a choice, what people will think, whether they will accept you, and maybe they will condemn you at all, and a lot of thoughts in your head.

So being yourself is the hardest thing to do. It is incredibly difficult. I do not want to write a set of rules, that you read immediately will be yourself and will begin to conquer the world. Because I write everything from personal experience and knowledge. But it is a topic for me is very sensitive, as I am still on the way, developing in this direction. So I would like to write a little about how it affected my life.

All my conscious life, I thought I lived quite consciously, perfectly. Well, what am I missing? Now it is so funny and hard to remember - my past. I was like an autumn leaf sailing through life. As it turned out, I lacked myself in my life.

But a year ago, I was born again. My life turned beyond its head. Needless to write how good and hard it was for me. I ran into a new universe within myself. I had hope, joy, and panic, from realizing what the hell I was doing with my life all these years. I moved from a dead point. It  is like I woke up from sleep. I ran around an imaginary circle and I did not know there was a way out and a direct road to life, to my life. I realized I had to be myself and love myself.

• I remember when I, making decisions, thought about others to be well, comfortable, and least of all about myself. Now I think about myself first, whether it suits me, how My life will change from this decision.

• Now I know what I want, what I like and what I do not like. And I do not care what others say about my style or appearance. As long as I like it myself and comfortable.

• I am not afraid to say words that others do not seem to understand. There will always be those who "For" and "Against." It does not matter. That does not make your self-esteem fall.

• In addition, some people try to show themselves on the good side, impress people who they do not even like. You do not have to do that. DO NOT meet anyone 's expectations. You will not be confident about that.

• I realized that people always say something. Even when they are not asked. So be yourself, do what you like, say what you think is right for yourself. Anyway, people will always say something. I try to ignore words. If I feel good, if I want to, who cares. It is your life. You decide how you live your life, it 's your time.

• Sometimes society tries to impose its standards. It is perfectly normal if someone does not like me. Because there are always people who like you and who don 't. You don 't need to try to please everyone or wait for something from them. You will not be good for everyone. How many times I stood up for myself and believed in myself. So just be yourself.

"No one is born not beautiful. The problem is, we live in a condemning society. " - Kim Nam Jun

I am an individual, you are an individual, and each of us. There is no one like me anymore. There is no one like you anymore. Do not forget that. Do not copy someone. You have your unique character, your sense of style, your talents, and your ideas, and we are all so different. It is so great to be yourself.

You have to accept yourself the way you are. Do not lose yourself. Think of yourself, your desires. Put yourself first in your life. So, appreciate and respect yourself above all else.

Special thanks to Kim Nam Jun and all the participants. They are closer to me than anyone. Because it was the music that helped me start my change. And I will not forget. Those who know me personally will understand what I mean.

A lot of the closest people tell me I have changed a lot. I am really excited when I hear that. Because I have made a lot of effort to change. I still have anxiety and fear, but I know. I sometimes definitely still say to myself, "What the hell have I done with my life all these years," but already with a smile. I keep fighting and going forward to get the best for myself. And this is not the last revelation on the subject.

My name is - Dinara. I am Programmer. Additionally, I am an amateur photographer. I keep an online blog. I have a lot of talents and hobbies. I wake up very early. I love and learn languages. I am a bookworm. I like to invent and create comfort. I am engaged in sports, running and generally active person. And I love music very much. I try to play the piano. And I have a dream. I am me and no one else. I am going to accept what I am. With their mistakes and flaws. My past I, present and who I will be.